We recently developed a reward system here at our house. Unfortunately, my two oldest girls (ages 4 and 2) are starting to experience some sibling rivalry. I’m pretty tired of the constant whining (“She pinched me!”) and scheming (“If you don’t give me that toy, I won’t play with you.”) and all the tears and timeouts that accompany it. So, when I saw this idea for a reward system, I thought we’d try and use it to encourage kindness between them.
When I notice them being kind to one another, they get to put a pom-pom in the “sweets” jar. (We actually use cotton balls.) My aim is to focus them on being nice to each other. When the jar is full, they get a special reward. I like that they work together to fill it and hope that helps instill a sense of cooperation between them. To add to their buy-in, I had the girls help me make the jar.
What You Need to Make a Reward System “Sweets Jar”
- Large jar
- Letter stickers
- Hot glue (if your decorations are not self-adhesive)
When I originally saw this idea, the jar said “caught ya being good” (you should check out how she uses it for positive reinforcement in her classroom), but I wanted to change the wording. After a few ideas, I decided on “sweets jar” because they get rewarded for doing sweet things.